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Teen pregnancy...and how we deal with it
I wrote about this in a blog on Bakersfield.com and it was printed in the paper last week on Saturday. On February 21 of this year, my 14 year old daughter told me she was pregnant. I think in the next 5 days I felt every emotion imagineable to a human. Anger, guilt, frustration, disappointment, joy, sad, you name it, I felt it. I remember a few years ago, I had a lady in my chair at work. She was the sister of my best friend's husband and all three of us...me, her and my best friend...were all pregnant with our first kids all together. Well, her daughter had just turned 17 and was pregnant...with TWINS. While I was cutting her hair, I said to her "So I hear you are going to be a grandma." without much enthusiasm. She said "Oh I know isn't it great!!!" I was thinking...how crazy do you have to be to think it is great for your teenager to be having one baby...much less two!!!??? Now I understand where she was coming from. I want to shout out to the world that I am going to be a grandma...but it sure is hard to say that it is my 14 year old daughter that is making me one. I am not embarassed by her in any way...it is just the looks that I get when I tell people. I am thrilled that I am going to have a grandson...I am not thrilled that my 14 year old is having a son. What do you do though? You accept it and move to the next step. I have heard people say that they would kill their daughter if she came home pregnant. Now really...KILL HER??? True, it is just a figure of speech...but in reality, when it does happen...what you do has nothing to do with killing her...You stand by her whatever her decision is whether you agree or not. You still love her no matter what. If she decides to keep the baby, you go to the doctor with her. When you hear your grandbaby's heartbeat for the first time...you are amazed...that you gave life to the life that is giving it life. You cry tears of joy and then you plan. Life goes on. I don't want my daughter to give up every bit of her youth. I will help her out as much as possible but she will ultimately have the most responsibility for him. This baby was not a mistake as a baby never ever is a mistake in God's eyes. He is just coming sooner than we expected...like five years sooner. 1 comments from 1 users
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sunnica
on Aug 5, 2008 at 08:41 AM
I was thinking about this... and is adoption not something she is comfortable with? Adoption is a blessing to both the adopted child and the people lucky enough to get the child. Your daughter is so young--adoption could be the answer. I was blessed to have been adopted. As an adult, I learned that my situation, too, was the result of a teen pregnancy. I was eventually able to find my birth mother and thank her for the courageous thing she did in giving me a home with a family who had been praying for me. I am so lucky, my parents feel blessed, and I had a tremendous chidhood. My parents couldn't have loved me more. If you're looking for a positive experience in adoption, I think most traditional adoptions turn out like mine... because the families are usually financially and emotionally ready for a baby--they just can't have one the usual way. Just a thought. :)
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