http://www.bakersfieldvoice.com/home/Blog/meandpete/31234 I wrote about this in a blog on Bakersfield.com and it was printed in the paper last week on Saturday. On February 21 of this year, my 14 year old daughter told me she was pregnant.&nbsp; I think in the next 5 days I felt every emotion imagineable to a human.&nbsp; Anger, guilt, frustration, disappointment, joy, sad, you name it, I felt it.&nbsp; I remember a few years ago, I had a lady in my chair at work.&nbsp; She was the sister of my best friend's husband and all three of us...me, her and my best friend...were all pregnant with our first kids all together.&nbsp; Well, her daughter had just turned 17 and was pregnant...with TWINS.&nbsp; While I was cutting her hair, I said to her &quot;So I hear you are going to be a grandma.&quot; without much enthusiasm.&nbsp; She said &quot;Oh I know isn't it great!!!&quot;&nbsp; I was thinking...how crazy do you have to be to think it is great for your teenager to be having one baby...much less two!!!??? Now I understand where she was coming from.&nbsp; I want to shout out to the world that I am going to be a grandma...but it sure is hard to say that it is my 14 year old daughter that is making me one.&nbsp; I am not embarassed by her in any way...it is just the looks that I get when I tell people.&nbsp; I am thrilled that I am going to have a grandson...I am not thrilled that my 14 year old is having a son.&nbsp; What do you do though?&nbsp; You accept it and move to the next step. I have heard people say that they would kill their daughter if she came home pregnant.&nbsp; Now really...KILL HER???&nbsp; True, it is just a figure of speech...but in reality, when it does happen...what you do has nothing to do with killing her...You stand by her whatever her decision is whether you agree or not.&nbsp; You still love her no matter what.&nbsp; If she decides to keep the baby, you go to the doctor with her.&nbsp; When you hear your grandbaby's heartbeat for the first time...you are amazed...that you gave life to the life that is giving it life.&nbsp; You cry tears of joy and then you plan.&nbsp; Life goes on.&nbsp; I don't want my daughter to give up every bit of her youth.&nbsp; I will help her out as much as possible but she will ultimately have the most responsibility for&nbsp;him. &nbsp;This baby was not a mistake as a baby never ever is a mistake in God's eyes.&nbsp; He is just coming sooner than we expected...like five years sooner. I wrote about this in a blog on Bakersfield.com and it was printed in the paper last week on Saturday. On February 21 of this year, my 14 year old daughter told me she was pregnant.&nbsp; I think in the next 5 days I felt every emotion imagineable to a human.&nbsp; Anger, guilt, frustration, disappointment, joy, sad, you name it, I felt it.&nbsp; I remember a few years ago, I had a lady in my chair at work.&nbsp; She was the sister of my best friend's husband and all three of us...me, her and my best friend...were all pregnant with our first kids all together.&nbsp; Well, her daughter had just turned 17 and was pregnant...with TWINS.&nbsp; While I was cutting her hair, I said to her &quot;So I hear you are going to be a grandma.&quot; without much enthusiasm.&nbsp; She said &quot;Oh I know isn't it great!!!&quot;&nbsp; I was thinking...how crazy do you have to be to think it is great for your teenager to be having one baby...much less two!!!??? Now I understand where she was coming from.&nbsp; I want to shout out to the world that I am going to be a grandma...but it sure is hard to say that it is my 14 year old daughter that is making me one.&nbsp; I am not embarassed by her in any way...it is just the looks that I get when I tell people.&nbsp; I am thrilled that I am going to have a grandson...I am not thrilled that my 14 year old is having a son.&nbsp; What do you do though?&nbsp; You accept it and move to the next step. I have heard people say that they would kill their daughter if she came home pregnant.&nbsp; Now really...KILL HER???&nbsp; True, it is just a figure of speech...but in reality, when it does happen...what you do has nothing to do with killing her...You stand by her whatever her decision is whether you agree or not.&nbsp; You still love her no matter what.&nbsp; If she decides to keep the baby, you go to the doctor with her.&nbsp; When you hear your grandbaby's heartbeat for the first time...you are amazed...that you gave life to the life that is giving it life.&nbsp; You cry tears of joy and then you plan.&nbsp; Life goes on.&nbsp; I don't want my daughter to give up every bit of her youth.&nbsp; I will help her out as much as possible but she will ultimately have the most responsibility for&nbsp;him. &nbsp;This baby was not a mistake as a baby never ever is a mistake in God's eyes.&nbsp; He is just coming sooner than we expected...like five years sooner. en-us Sun, 03 Aug 2008 00:16:05 PDT <p>I was thinking about this... and is adoption not something she is comfortable with?  Adoption is a blessing to both the adopted child and the people lucky enough to get the child.  Your daughter is so young--adoption could be the answer.  I was blessed to have been adopted.  As an adult, I learned that my situation, too, was the result of a teen pregnancy.  I was eventually able to find my birth mother and thank her for the courageous thing she did in giving me a home with a family who had been praying for me.  I am so lucky, my parents feel blessed, and I had a tremendous chidhood.  My parents couldn't have loved me more.</p> <p>If you're looking for a positive experience in adoption, I think most traditional adoptions turn out like mine... because the families are usually financially and emotionally ready for a baby--they just can't have one the usual way. </p> <p>Just a thought.  :)</p> http://www.bakersfieldvoice.com/home/Blog/meandpete/31234/#c_287026 http://www.bakersfieldvoice.com/home/Blog/meandpete/31234/#c_287026 <p>I was thinking about this... and is adoption not something she is comfortable with?  Adoption is a blessing to both the adopted child and the people lucky enough to get the child.  Your daughter is so young--adoption could be the answer.  I was blessed to have been adopted.  As an adult, I learned that my situation, too, was the result of a teen pregnancy.  I was eventually able to find my birth mother and thank her for the courageous thing she did in giving me a home with a family who had been praying for me.  I am so lucky, my parents feel blessed, and I had a tremendous chidhood.  My parents couldn't have loved me more.</p> <p>If you're looking for a positive experience in adoption, I think most traditional adoptions turn out like mine... because the families are usually financially and emotionally ready for a baby--they just can't have one the usual way. </p> <p>Just a thought.  :)</p>